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A mother is concerned that her 5 year old boy appears confused about his sexual identity.

Should she seek professional help? Is her child in spiritual danger?


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Mother Worried About Young Child's Confusion About Sexual Identity

Q: I need help. My son is 5 years old. During his pre-school year he had a few incidents with boys. I am referring to kissing and touching private parts. Just today I found him kissing the next door neighbor - who is a boy. I am scared and I don't know how to handle the situation. We are Christian parents. I tried spanking and punishment. I want Christian advice. I am willing to seek CHRISTIAN Psychiatric help. What should I do. I am desperate and broken hearted.

A: Dear Sister,

I know you are frightened and dismayed, but I think you are making more of your situation than you ought to at this time. Perhaps your concern should be more clearly directed towards the spiritual aspects of your situation which you can control.

Every parent who knows Christ is engaged in a battle for the souls of their children, beginning at an early age. There is a subtle enemy who lays and waits for the souls of all. His intentions are evil and his wiles are dangerous.

Your child at 5 is no more lost for kissing a boy than he would be for being defiant and self-willed against your parental authority. All sin and rebellion leads to judgment. Children are born with the heart of flesh inherited from Adam and though innocent of acts of sin at birth, they have the nature of sin that will surely lead to sinful actions later.

Children do not automatically grow up to trust in their Savior. Their souls are a crop which is watered in the godly prayer and concern of loving parents. Your son is still a child. He has a sin nature that must be countered by the teachings of God's Word and the truth which will make him free. He is not yet a hardened sinner and there is still time to turn his direction.

Would you be as concerned if his conduct was carelessness towards God and hard-heartedness towards the story of how Christ shed his blood to redeem his heart? Failure to love God and trust him for his eternal redemption will lead to the loss of his soul just as surely as any confusion about the proper roles of men and women.

As to seeing a Christian psychiatrist, I do not know that properly speaking, there is such a thing. There are psychologists and psychiatrists that claim to believe in Christ and his teachings yet hold to the teachings of men such as Freud, and Jung which are clearly contradictory to the teachings of the Bible. Do not be fooled.  Association of the name of Christ to false doctrines commonly held by those who trust in psychology does not make their beliefs true.

I would look carefully to the Word of God and trust my own common sense before I would pay someone to solve my problems who trusted more in the teachings of men than the Word of God. Please visit http://www.psychoheresy-aware.org/ for more information on psychology. I would seek the support of wise and godly men in a sound Bible church more than someone charging for advice which should come from God's Word and his ministers for free.

Another source of information I trust is http://wayoflife.org/~dcloud You can find a list of Churches which are recommended for their soundness in doctrine and practice.

Our prayers go with you

Mark and Sallie